A few weeks ago, I stumbled across a post somewhere in the depths of blogland — don’t ask me where — written by a Christian mom. In it, she listed the things that moms get really “into”, and the pressure one can feel to conform, in order to be hip or whatever. Since I can’t remember where in the [cyber]world this post is, I’ll just write a short list of the things I remember that she mentioned:
— organic, from-scratch eating
Read that list again. Now, tell me, which of those things is not like the others?
Did you figure it out? If not, here’s the answer: spanking.
Now, I’m totally gung-ho about breastfeeding, and I have my biblical reasons for it. And over my dead body will my kids spend 8 hours a day being taught by anyone but my husband or me. However, those things are personal convictions — convictions, yes, and I can tell you the scripture and verse with which I’ve been convicted — but personal revelation.
But spanking does not fall into the personal conviction category. No, things that are written in black and white, over and over and over, are no longer a matter of how the Lord is speaking to you personally. At some point, it’s just the Bible truth, and we have to obey.
Now, let me say this: if you are spanking your children because you’re trying to fit in with a cool group of mommies, well, you’re wrong. If you’re spanking your children just because that’s how you were raised, well, you should think twice about that, too. And if you’re spanking your kids because you’re angry, then you’re in serious sin. The reason behind how we are training our children needs to be firmly rooted in the Word. Period.
But once we have the Word established as our guide for raising our children, we will find that there are black and white truths to be found. Like, the rod of correction.
The fact that I believe this to be true doesn’t mean childtraining is a walk in the park. It doesn’t mean I’ll never raise the questions again. That’s why I’m really excited about the upcoming series at momandus. I can’t wait to see what my mom and Brietta — two moms I seriously honor and venerate — have to say about obeying the Word and reaping the fruit of children walking in righteousness!
(*When I say spanking, I’m referring to controlled and purposed swats on the bottom — not random hitting.)